The Ultimate Self-Help Book, TRUMP YOUR LIFE, Launches June 2, 2020

Morgan James’s new release, Trump Your Life: 25 Life Lessons from the Ups and Downs of The 45th President of the United States by Dr. Keith Ablow and Christian Josi, provides the tools to help people transform their relationships, revolutionize their approach to work, achieve the success they have dreamt of, or revitalize their family, community, or country. Trump Your Life is being released early due to demand and its topic aligning with the political events currently taking place in the U.S.

Nearly 63 million Americans voted Trump into office, making it undeniable that there is much to learn from President Donald Trump and his approach to life. With a foreword from Roger Stone, one of the most famous political operatives in history, Trump Your Life reveals 25 key lessons from President Trump’s life that anyone can master to make his or her life more fulfilling, successful, and powerful. These 25 key lessons enable people to become just as resolute, resourceful, and resilient as the president himself.

Within Trump Your Life, Dr. Keith Ablow and Christian Josi present an in-depth approach that covers a combination of their personal experience with the current president, decades of creative, political, and media work, and their piercing psychological analysis. This approach has allowed Dr. Ablow and Josi to identify 25 key lessons from President Trump’s life that anyone can master to make their own life more fulfilling, successful, and powerful.

Howie Carr, the national radio talk show host, said, “These guys know POTUS and have studied his m.o. up close and personal. Trump Your Life is a great roadmap for personal empowerment!”

Paul Carlucci, former Publisher of the New York Post, said, “Trump Your Life is incredibly entertaining and educational!”

Commander Kirk Lippold USN (Ret) said, “Insightful.  Inspiring.  Unique.  You will not find another book like Trump Your Life.”

And The Mancow (Mancow Muller), of WLS-AM radio, said, “A combination of in-depth personal experience with the President, decades of creative, political and media work and piercing psychological analysis made this book possible.”

 

 

A new website, Trump Your Life Now, features videos from the authors and Mr. Stone.

 

 

Watch Dr. Ablow’s appearance on The Joe Pags Show to discuss the impact of the corona virus shutdown.

About the Author:

Dr. Keith Ablow served for a decade as a Fox News Network Contributor.  He is the author of 16 books, including the New York Times bestseller The 7 Wonders (with Glenn Beck) and the international bestseller Living the Truth. He has appeared as a guest on over 1,000 national television broadcasts, and has written over 500 articles for publications including USA Today, the Boston Herald, the New York Post, Newsweek and Discover.  Dr. Ablow now works with clients one-to-one through his revolutionary new life coaching, counseling and mentoring program Pain-2-Power. He currently resides in Newburyport, MA.

Christian Josi is a leading communications advisor and a veteran of center-right/libertarian politics and non-profit management. He is an author, columnist, internationally known songwriter, and recording artist. Christian has five albums and a host of guest appearances on other artists’ recordings. He is also a documentary film producer, and frequent columnist for a variety of publications. Christian is the Founder and Managing Director of C. Josi & Company, a global communications resource firm based in Virginia Beach and Washington. He currently resides in Virginia Beach, VA.

 

Dr. Keith Ablow

    

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What You Create is Forever

There are many reasons to create what your soul calls upon you to create—whether that be a painting, a poem, a blog, or a business.  All of these are works of art.  Whichever one you create is a form of SELF-expression.  And true self-expression is a gift not only to the creator, but to all those who encounter your work.

Another reason to create from your core is that what you create lasts, literally, forever.  Sure, your painting may not be seen by the masses (although it might).  Your poem—even if published—likely won’t be published and republished for centuries.  Your blog may not go viral.  And your business may run only for a time, even if that means it lasts decades.  But here’s the reason what you create lasts forever:  Whether three people or one million people interact with it, those people are changed by it—irrevocably, in some small or larger way.  And, then, every other person they interact with is also changed by it.  The thread of your creative work, once woven into the universe, can never be completely extracted.

This isn’t just true for works of art or a business you start or an idea you generate and share.  This is also true for the family you may have started, for the relationships you played a part in creating, for the opinions you developed and shared, for the kind and encouraging words you speak to others, for the advice you offer.  These are creative acts, too.  And they also last forever.  Because people are works of art and when you alter them, even infinitesimally, the ripples extend to every human being with whom they interact.  On and on and on—forever.  Even when you can’t see or hear or feel the changes your creativity has wrought in the world, please have faith that the changes exist and are immortal.  I promise you this is true.

There’s another aspect to the permanence of creativity to consider.  Do your best.  What you manifest will resonate forever in this universe of ours.  Don’t let that scare you, let it embolden you.  You’re that powerful.

In his stunningly beautiful novel Franny and Zooey, J.D. Salinger wrote about the way Zooey Glass was taught about this fact by his late brother Seymour.  All the kids in the family went on a television quiz show called “Wise Child” together, regularly.  And when Seymour advised Zooey to shine his shoes before the broadcast, Zooey protested.  The audience couldn’t even see his shoes from where the Glass children sat.  But Seymour corrected him.  He told him to shine his shoes for the Fat Lady, an imaginary woman in the audience who could see everything.  Here’s what Salinger writes (as Zooey):

I’ll tell you a terrible secret.  Are you listening to me?  There isn’t anyone out there  who isn’t Seymour’s Fat Lady … Don’t you know that?  Don’t you know that secret yet?”

Create. Do your best. What you effort is forever.

Dr. Keith Ablow

    

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YOU ARE THE CREATOR

So You Had Better Become the Person You Were Always Meant to Be

In order to become the most powerful creative force you can be in the world, you will need to know who you truly are.  What does this mean?  It means you will need to look into yourself, at the deepest levels, to SEE what events, forces, relationships and beliefs in every chapter of your life either contributed to your authenticity as a person or detracted from it.

 

 

Being the person you were meant to be from all time—your authentic self—is the strongest foundation from which to build any creative work.  That is the case because only this authentic self can precisely choose which creative work to focus energy on.  Only this authentic self can summon the creative power to communicate heartfelt ideas and feelings and have them be received at the deepest levels by other people.  Only a real, authentic self can create transformational work that endures over time because it reflects the ultimate creation—the human soul.

To become the person you were meant to be from all time requires some creative work, too.  You need to dispense with denial and explore the early chapters of your life story, shedding the patterns of emotion, thought and behavior that are false fronts—transplants from other powerful (often less than positive) people in your life.  You need to put down the shields you have been deploying to defend against less-than-comforting, or even truly traumatic, events you survived and claim the real person who lived through them.  How else could your creative work be infused with humanity, when humanity is all about feeling and foibles and suffering and surviving?

That’s why Pain-2-Power is a pathway of healing and empowerment I created, in part, for artists, inventors and entrepreneurs to become the most creative forces they can be in our world.  As Carl Jung put it:

Your vision will become clear only when you can look into your own heart.

Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.

When you are ready to take this journey, I am ready (and will feel privileged) to take it with you.

Dr. Keith Ablow

    

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Becoming YourSELF Restores True Free Will

We all want to make decisions with a clear mind and take responsibility for them.  Being able to do so is a hallmark of self-determination and also evidence of integrity.  For many people, however, their free will is impinged upon because of nearly automatic patterns of emotion, thought and behavior that may have been set in motion much earlier in life.

Achieving true free will requires identifying these patterns that effectively put your mind on autopilot and actually water down your free will.

Here’s a simple example:  A woman with a father who is very controlling may unconsciously “decide” to never place herself in the position of being overly controlled, again.  All good, so far, right?  But since she was exposed to so much control when very young, her solution is too simplistic:  She unconsciously chooses only men with very low self-esteem who look to her for guidance and support and cannot be full partners in the relationship.  Those men disappoint her, eventually, because they can’t offer support.  And they also resent her because they intuit that she chose them for their weaknesses, not their potential strengths.  The dynamic has resulted in two divorces and several painful one- to two-year relationships.

Was the woman acting with “free will” when she chose her partners.  I would say, no.  Certainly, she was not acting with optimal free will.  She “chose” them, yes.  But she did so based on her extreme need, mostly unconscious, to avoid being overly controlled, as she had been as a child.  Her unconscious solution of finding weak men to partner with overshot the mark—automatically—by a lot.

Here’s another example.  A man who, when he was 13, watched his father descend into a deep depression after losing a business might unconsciously decide to never take the risk of starting his own venture—even if he has a wonderful, creative, promising idea that would likely meet with success.  Is that free will?  I don’t think so.  The man isn’t “free,” because he is enslaved by past events that are triggering automatic self-defeating patterns of emotion, thought and behavior.

In order to achieve true and optimal free will we must rid ourselves of the automatic patterns that too often unconsciously govern our decisions.  We must reclaim our God-given free will by doing the work of identifying the events in our lives that established these patterns and set them in motion.  In so doing we are revisiting the pain in our lives (disappointing or even disastrous relationships) and reclaiming the power of free will in our lives.  Tremendous reservoirs of energy and momentum and self-esteem and success are unleashed in the process.

This is part of the work and the promise of Pain-2-Power, by the way, and one of the reasons it changes lives in such substantial ways.  Pain-2-Power removes resistors in the circuitry of your soul and restores true free will.

 

Dr. Keith Ablow

    

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EXPECT GREAT THINGS FROM GENERATION CORONA

We are in the midst of a pandemic that is costing our nation tens of thousands of lives and which has devastated our economy.  What possible silver lining could there be?  Is it impolitic to even suggest one, even as we fight a war against Coronavirus?  I believe it is not only permissible, but helpful, to consider the longer-term effects of this pandemic—not only in terms of the trouble we face and will face, but also in terms of how it will strengthen our nation and our culture.

Consider this:  Adolescents, teenagers and young adults are living through extreme stresses—unprecedented stresses, in a way—while still connecting with their friends through social media, still completing coursework online, still interviewing for jobs (virtually), still going to work at jobs deemed essential and still planning their futures—including starting college, starting careers and moving to other cities.

Yes, all the young people in these age groups are also encountering massive challenges, including anxiety about being infected by the virus, disappointment about missing friends, scuttled graduation ceremonies, the isolation of working from home or losing jobs.  But so many of them -millions of them- are bearing those burdens while remaining optimistic and moving forward, in the ways they can.

Seen this way, we have an army of young people—Generation Corona, if you will—who could turn out to be one of America’s (and the world’s) greatest generations.  They are being tested.  They are experiencing pain.  And they may turn out to be extraordinarily powerful, as a result—realistic, concerned for others, courageous and creative in ways we can only imagine, at this point.

I am not being Pollyanna here.  I know living through crises can also set the stage for emotional challenges years in the future.  I practiced psychiatry for more than 25 years before founding Pain-2-Power.  But why would the pessimistic view of Generation Corona be the more realistic one?  Personally, I don’t think that it is.  I believe in resiliency.  I believe in comeback stories.  And I believe in the potential of these young people.

Abraham Lincoln once wrote a letter to his son’s headmaster that captures some of what I think may be at work in Generation Corona:

Treat him gently, but do not coddle him, because only the test of fire makes fine steel. Let him have the courage to be impatient… let him have the patience to be brave. Teach him always to have sublime faith in himself, because then he will always have sublime faith in mankind. This is a big order, but see what you can do…

No one wanted Coronavirus as a teacher.  Everyone would have us rid of it today, if we could.  But as we contemplate a world changed by it, let’s not forget that the souls of our young are being changed by it, too—and not only in ways they, or we, will forever regret.

Dr. Keith Ablow

    

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Why Your Challenges, Your Strengths and Your Path Forward are Unique

One of the questions that arises again and again as I work with clients—and as I discuss my work with other counselors and coaches—is why one person who lives through major losses in life or whose family dynamics are challenging would find him- or herself very pained by those realities, while someone else with similar losses or relationship issues would appear not to be.

Here’s the short answer:  No one really has anyone else’s life story.  Each of us is truly unique.  There are so many variables that impact our psyches that to try to compare one person’s reaction to any particular stress with that of another person’s just doesn’t work.  Everything matters.

Were you a social person or much more reserved?

Did you have support from a sibling or were you bullied by yours?

Were you physically strong or slight?  Was your family financially stable or were there always financial worries?

Did you move frequently or stay in one town as a child?

Were your parents well-matched or not?

Was there a spiritual dimension to your upbringing or not?

Did you have a best friend to turn to when things seemed especially dark or not?

Did you have a mentor, even for a while, who saw you as special and made that known to you?

Did you find learning relatively easy or have learning challenges?

I could go on and on and on, with hundreds of questions.  That’s the point.  Each and every one of them would matter.  That’s why I frequently say, “Your story matters.”  It really does—in its details and nuances, not just its general themes.  The details significantly influence the patterns you will develop, the challenges you will face and the very personal, individualized path you can take to a more powerful life.

Pain-2-Power is based on this reality:  No one’s life story is anyone else’s life story.  There’s nothing cookie cutter about understanding the forces that operated in one’s past and are influencing one’s present, then harnessing those understandings to become less anxious, happier and more productive, in the future.

Never judge your journey by anyone else’s standards when you struggle to move forward in life or when you design to take the next leap in life.  Invest in understanding yourself.  Yours is a story unlike any other.

Dr. Keith Ablow

    

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Never Settle for Less than Finding The Underlying Cause of Your Anxiety

Science offers us many tools to blunt the symptoms of anxiety.  Benzodiazepine medications like Klonopin and Xanax, though much-maligned as addictive, are also very effective in reducing extremely painful, even paralyzing, symptoms of anxiety.  Ketamine treatments can be very helpful.  Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation has its place.  Yet, with all these and other treatments for anxiety, it would be a big mistake to not uncover the underlying source of one’s anxiety.

Yes, genetics can play a role in making a person’s neurochemistry tend toward less serotonin and, therefore, pave the way for a person experiencing anxiety.  But I have never met a single person struggling with anxiety whose life story doesn’t hold essential information about what set the stage for it.  The relevant “pages” of one’s life story could be recent or in the distant past, but they exist and need to be uncovered and understood, in order to create peace of mind.  The same can be said of low or erratic mood, by the way.

I’ll give you just one example.  One of my clients who struggled with profound anxiety grew up in a family that didn’t foster autonomy or independence.  He was discouraged from voicing independent ideas, discouraged from going away to camp, discouraged from going away to college and constantly asked whether he might be feeling ill.  It didn’t take years for him and I to unearth these toxic messages that were the soil in which his anxiety had taken root; we were already talking about these dynamics within a few hours of beginning our work together.  And once we clarified those dynamics and uncovered others, his anxiety began to decrease.  He was able to keep the medicine his psychiatrist prescribed him at very modest levels.  He began working on a business project he had always hoped to pursue.

A psychologist friend of mine has remarked to me that human beings should probably be born at 14-years-old, because being exposed to complex interpersonal dynamics earlier than that creates symptoms like anxiety and mood swings.  Because a child of 6 or 8 or 11 years old can’t look at those dynamics objectively and avoid fallout from them.  To the child, the dynamics seem normal.  How would my client, for example, have known that his mother’s constant questioning of whether he felt ill was anything other than love and concern?  How could he have known that he was being molded into worrying about whether his well-being was constantly at risk?

Of course, he couldn’t have known.  We needed to journey back and uncover that counterproductive pattern of communication and others, in order for him to move past them (as an adult) and pave the way for more confidence, greater optimism and higher self-esteem.

How does this happen?  Why would understanding the toxic messaging or traumatic events or suboptimal communication patterns in one’s life—whether fairly recent or quite long ago—result in an emotional and spiritual reset and set someone free to live a more powerful life?  Here’s the answer:  Human beings are narrative beings.  Having a firm and complete grasp of the life one has already lived—including early chapters of it—is essential to being able to firmly grasp control of one’s life today.  And nothing other than that firm sense of control will do.

Dr. Keith Ablow

    

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Soul Alchemy

The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are. –C.G Jung

There are limits to the usefulness of science when it comes to becoming the person you are meant to be—what Carl Jung called the Self.  As psychiatry has become increasingly based on neurochemistry, brain imaging studies, and other technologies, the danger is that the immeasurable ways that human beings become themselves will be valued less or set aside.

Becoming oneself has been likened to the process of alchemy—turning lead into gold.  It requires a process of examining one’s emotions and thoughts and behaviors and determining which are false fronts (base metal like lead) and then journeying deeper into one’s heart and mind to find the perspectives, talents, goals, dreams and elements of personality that are truest to you (precious metal like gold).

That doesn’t sound very scientific, does it?  Well, it isn’t.  That’s because human beings aren’t just their physiology or neurochemistry.  We’re spiritual beings.  And reawakening the essence of who we are—finding our core strength and creativity and capacity to love—requires looking inside us in ways an MRI or CT scan or PET scan never could—via tools like honesty, introspection, the power of narrative thinking and the harnessing of human empathy.  These tools are less about “imaging” than they are about “imagining,” less about chemical “messengers” in the brain than powerful “messages” from deep inside us.

Pain-2-Power is meant to facilitate this alchemy through a process of guided self-examination.  It is meant to get to the “gold” of self-knowledge and self-expression that leads to actual self-esteem and, then, a roadmap to real success.  The process focuses, in part, on relationships and struggles and hurdles in one’s life—sometimes early in one’s life—that created distance between the person one really IS and the way one has been functioning.  By revealing those detours and unpacking the emotions associated with them, insight increases, anxiety decreases, mood increases and huge reservoirs of energy are freed up to move forward powerfully in life.

I’ll close with another quote from Carl Jung that should help motivate folks to begin the process:

 

Your visions will become clear only when you can look into your own heart.

Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakens.

 

Dr. Keith Ablow

    

 

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Recognizing Your Pain and that of Others Is Also a Form of Power

I want to share one way that you can become more powerful that may not, initially, seem like a prescription for Pain-2-Power.  But it is.  You can remind yourself, even daily, that everyone is in some kind of pain.  And we are more alike than different in our needs and fears.

How could reminding yourself that everyone is pained, in one way or another, lead you to personal power?  It does so by unleashing your empathy.  It taps the parts of your heart and mind that can resonate with the suffering of others and that can stop running—and actually face and overcome—your own.

Once you embrace the notion that no one really escapes painful challenges in life (even if they might pretend, otherwise), you become open to hearing the truth from others, and they will recognize that, whether consciously or unconsciously.  You will become connected to others in deeper, more meaningful, more authentic ways.  And you will become increasingly connected to yourself in deeper, more meaningful ways, too.  This is a potent form of real personal and interpersonal power.

I have often shared my belief that human beings don’t really bond as deeply over our successes in life as we do over our struggles in life.  If fifty of us were to gather in a room, for instance, and read the most impressive parts of our resumes to one another, we wouldn’t leave the room feeling all that connected.  We might even feel some envy.  We might have spent a lot of the time judging one another.  We might have judged ourselves, too.  But if, instead, we gathered in the same room and shared one or two things in our lives that aren’t going so well, or that frighten us, or that we wondered whether we would survive, we would leave very deeply connected, indeed.  Now, here’s another part of the magic:  If only two or three of the 50 people gathered in the room shared their pain, we would still all leave the room feeling connected.  Simply being in the presence of others when truth and empathy are also present can create powerful bonds.  Powerful.

Why is this the case?  It is because of the miracle—yes, miracle—of human empathy.  We tend to take it for granted that human beings can resonate with the pain of others.  We even tend to take it for granted that taking the time to quietly do so, in the presence of someone in pain, actually sustains that person, emotionally, and can kindle that person’s courage.  But we shouldn’t.  Because human empathy is a gift from God, the way I see it (or the Universe or Nature, if you prefer to see it that way, instead).

Now, consider this fact:  When you empathize with yourself, meaning when you learn to uncover the hidden reservoirs of pain in your life that you’ve been trying to avoid (at any—and, often, very substantial cost), you will discover untold reservoirs of power.

I promise you this is the case.  And I am here to help.

Dr. Keith Ablow

    

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THE BODY-MIND LIFE SKILL OF SOUND POSTURE

Posture Affects Mood, and Mood Affects Posture

The COVID-19 pandemic is causing anxiety, stress, low mood and even clinical depression. Weeks of social and physical distancing and stay-at-home orders wear on people, to say the least.  We’re not used to feeling so “out of control.”  It can feel as though the rug has been pulled out from under you, if you were furloughed or your position is now considered non-essential. No one wants to feel “non-essential.”

When mood suffers, so can physical posture.  When it seems as if the whole world is shouldering the weight of a pandemic, is it really a surprise that lots of people end up hanging their heads, rounding their shoulders and slumping more?

The effects of the pandemic on mood are also affecting our bodies, including our posture. That makes this an excellent time to call a physical therapist with an in-depth understanding of the relationship between mind and body.  Because, as I have written on this site before, posture affects mood, and mood affects posture.

If you already work with a physical therapist familiar with your health history, physical capabilities and past injuries, don’t be shy about sharing any new developments, in terms of mood or anxiety.  It’s important to be proactive and avoid secondary physical problems that could come from emotional ones.  Physical therapists should always be holistic in their approach.

Your therapist should be able to provide you with a home exercise program.  This ensures that you can continue a healthy exercise routine, even if a health care facility is not available. Your home routine should emphasize exercises for sound posture, a dynamic body basic for all movements—whether sitting, standing or using exercise equipment.

Here’s something to try, even starting right now:

  • Stand in front of the mirror in your normal, everyday stance.
  • Look and see and feel how you are standing, but don’t change anything.
  • Now, just observe . . .
  • Are you standing with your toes actually on the ground?
  • Are your hips level?
  • Are your shoulders open and broad?
  • Are your arms falling at your sides?
  • Is your head positioned above your shoulders (ears over shoulders)?

Next:

Try to actually adopt the above positions for your feet, hips, shoulders, arms and head.

Look in the mirror a few times each day. You will begin to see and feel and understand how making this posture routine will improve your outlook and mood.

 

Kathi Fairbend, MS RPT

Author, Physical Therapy and Ergonomic Consultant

Stand Up To Depression

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