Pain-2-Power Person of the Week: Cross Kubik

Cross Kubik, 17, of Springfield, Missouri, who some have dubbed the Miracle Kid, returned to the pitching mound this past spring.  That would be remarkable enough, given that he had just beaten leukemia, but there’s a lot more to the story.

See, Cross Kubik was treated for neuroblastoma, a dreaded childhood cancer, at age 2.  He went through a 12-hour surgery to remove the tumor and dozens of rounds of chemotherapy and radiation treatment.  He needed other yearly treatments and checkups until he was a teenager and considered “cured.”

Then, during the pandemic, after Kubik’s yearly checkup was canceled, Kubik’s mother Ashley got worried. She had a sense something was wrong.  Really wrong.  She didn’t want to believe it, but her instincts were too powerful to ignore.  So she made sure Cross went to the doctor.  And that’s when he was diagnosed with leukemia triggered by his prior cancer treatment.  That meant more chemotherapy and a bone marrow donation from his younger sister Creighton, to try to save his life.  And he went through it all, without wavering, because of his determination to live and to pitch, again.

Kubik credits St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital in Memphis with saving his life – twice.  And he credits his family.  And he credits his faith in God.

There’s more to the story that speaks to the power of God, by the way.  Kubik plans to attend medical school and become a sports medicine doctor or an oncologist.  Now, take just a minute to think about that.  Is it too much to wonder whether all the pain that Cross Kubik and his father, mother and sisters have gone through for so many years as he confronted cancer might well turn Cross into a powerful healer?  Is there any kid out there who wouldn’t take heart just from visiting with Dr. Cross Kubik, whether at St. Jude’s (Wouldn’t that be something?) or any other hospital, anywhere.  Is it too much to wonder whether the healing in kids facing cancer might actually begin just by hearing the story of the man they are about to meet—the man who will be their doctor?

If you look at yourself or you look at your family or you look at the world and think that there isn’t any sense to it all, think, again.  The whole world is set up for comebacks—one, after another.  And that’s why every kind of pain sets the stage for some kind of power.  We just have to claim it.  That isn’t always easy.  It’s sometimes very, very hard—hard nearly beyond words.  But it is always, always possible.

Dr. Keith Ablow

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LOVE YOUR FATE

This one isn’t easy.  Love Your Fate.  It’s translated from the Stoic saying, “Amor Fati.”  So, what does it mean?  Well, from the Pain-2-Power perspective it means that life is not random and that the painful chapters of your life story (or the story of your business or your family or your country) are actually opportunities to make you more powerful.  It’s alchemy for the soul.

Here’s a stark example.  Let’s say you were one of 500 warriors on a battlefield.  Across the battlefield you see 10,000 warriors gathering to oppose you.  Amor Fati or Love Your Fate would dictate that you don’t run, that you don’t resign yourself to your certain death, that you don’t even think that there is some chance you might somehow survive.  Instead, you think, “God has set the stage for an incredible show of courage, at the least.  At the most, He has set the stage for a miraculous victory.  I LOVE THIS.”

Now, that’s a really difficult bar to clear, right?  But you will have moments short of bloodshed on a battlefield to love your fate.  Your business can’t seem to win over investors.  Loving your fate might dictate that you celebrate the clear need to refocus, that you love the fact that you are going to have to find the one or two investors who see your vision as you do or even that you love the fact that you’re going to have to slim down the team and work twice as hard.  Whatever it takes.

You can grieve the loss of a relationship or you can love it by dedicating yourself to win it back, by using the loss of it to reflect on yourSELF and emerge stronger or that you will find another relationship and apply all your love and learning to it, in the full expectation that good things will happen from the whole of the journey.

You can bemoan the loss of freedoms in America and the ascent of those who, deep down, hate this country, or you can love the fact that those who despise liberty are making themselves know and that a redoubling of effort on the part of citizens committed to autonomy and human rights will be needed—and will take place.  What a great calling, after all—to be part of a time when every word you speak and every step you take in the direction of preserving what the Founding Fathers intended for this great land actually matters.

My favorite poem is in the same vein as Amor Fati.  It is by Rainer Maria Rilke:

“Perhaps all the dragons in our lives are princesses who are only waiting to see us act, just once, with beauty and courage. Perhaps everything that frightens us is, in its deepest essence, something helpless that wants our love.”― Rainer Maria Rilke, Letters to a Young Poet

 

Amor Fati.  Pain-2-Power.  Onward.

Dr. Keith Ablow

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